The coaching of She does it:
- Offers positive energy, empathy, clarifying questions and challenges.
- Is personal and customized (not according to a standard rigid roadmap).
- Is both explorative and action oriented and therefore also practical.
- Is also possible in the evening (via Skype, phone or face to face).
You are not really happy with your job.
In the morning you go to work more and more reluctantly. You don’t learn new things anymore and regularly watch the clock to see whether it is time to go home.
Your friends are taking charge of their personal development. They fully use their talents and often make a social contribution. They are also financially independent.
Actually you want that too, but you notice that you are getting insecure when thinking about these steps:
- What do I want exactly?
- Do I have the right competences for that job?
- How do I organize everything at home if I go for my dream job?
It feels as though you are at a standstill with your career.
You are fed up with that.
You are not the only one…
It is well known that women chase their professional dreams less than men. Studies show that there are cultural explanations for this, which go back to our youth.
- When a girl tries to take the lead, she is quickly seen as bossy. This is rarely the case with boys. He is seen as a good leader.
- Girls are taught to be caring and to pay attention to each other. In the education of boys, battling is much more accepted (who can pee the furthest ;)).
Do you recognize these kinds of situations, too?
You can speak, as it were, of stereotypes that arise in our youth and that are strengthened in our further lives.
We find the stereotype of a successful businessman with a family quite normal.
But, both men and women have quite different thoughts about the stereotype of a woman with a successful career and a family:
- I feel sorry for her children.
- She probably doesn’t have a happy private life.
- How does she manage it all?
Perhaps these thoughts also occurred to you once?
It makes us women, because we want to be liked so much (by our partner, children, parents, friends, colleagues etc.), insecure about larger steps in the professional field.
Another reason for the insecurity that many women experience is their so-called ‘imposter syndrome’, also called ‘fraud syndrome’.
This means that despite proof of competence, you are convinced that you do not deserve your success. You have a persistent fear of being exposed as a ‘fraud’.
Research (Sakulku & Alexander, 2011) shows that 70% of us sometimes suffer from this ‘imposter syndrome’.
This will make you work even harder, because you don’t want to make mistakes. Either you avoid challenges, for example by showing less ambition or you won’t negotiate the salary.
Do you also happen to suffer from these imposter feelings now and then?
Confidently aim for your professional dream
As a woman, it is just harder to realize your ambitions. That’s why women deserve extra support.
Did you know that research (Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober: getting to 50/50) has shown that when the care for children and financial responsibility are shared, the woman feels less guilty about her choice, the man is more involved and the children thrive better?
So, we all benefit if you make your professional dream come true!
With She does it coaching you manage to regain control over your own life. The coaching is ‘transformative’. We focus on how you can grow towards your authentic self.
That may sound a bit ‘wishy washy’, but it is anything but empty. The coaching of She does it is both explorative and action oriented. You will be regularly busy with challenging assignments.
As a result, it boosts your self-confidence. Regardless of new challenges, which will always keep coming, you know how to keep your course and give direction to your life.
You are capable of combining your professional and personal ambitions in a way that suits you.
It feels great to make your professional dream come true.
“I was at a point in my career as HR consultant that I didn’t know what I wanted.
When I saw Eefke’s message about coaching, it seemed like a good opportunity to get started.
Beforehand I was a bit sceptical, because I thought that coaching might be a bit too vague for me.
But it has been a positive experience. Eefke works professionally and I felt safe to share everything with her.
I found the exercises we did practical and they gave me new insights. Such as the irrational thoughts that prevent me from taking steps forward. Now I have practical tools to deal with those thoughts. That has given me more confidence.
I also enjoyed the fact that Eefke took off her “coaching hat” occasionally and shared personal experiences.
Ultimately, the coaching led to a good result for me, because I found a new job as HR manager.
That is why I think Eefke’s coaching is extremely suitable for every well educated woman who is thinking about “how to move forward in my career”.”
I have personally experienced how effective it is to work with a coach at crucial moments in your life.
Despite all the fuss, it helps you to stay in balance and to discover new possibilities.
I compare a coach with a sports trainer. Sports helps you to stay physically healthy. A coach helps you to stay emotionally fit.
You work intensively together with a coach. Therefore, you also want to have good rapport. If there isn’t a good chemistry then the result will be disappointing.
So, orientate yourself well!
Here you can read more about my background and in this video I give you more information about how we work together.
I’ve read enough and think we could build a good rapport!
Of course, this session would be both confidential and entirely free of obligation.
I regularly get the question: “What exactly do you do as a coach?”
I understand that the term coach and, for example, a therapist are sometimes mixed up.
As a coach I take the present as a starting point and from there we make steps forward. A coach works therefore future-oriented.
A therapist focuses on solving problems that arise from the past and that hinder one’s functioning in the present.
“I had a huge sense of worthlessness about myself, so I had almost written myself off as a lost cause and wasn’t sure that I deserved the coaching help. But, my husband was so positive about his own experiences of coaching that it gave me confidence to approach Eefke.
The coaching was fantastic. I had to get over my fear of embarrassment early on in the journey and as I threw myself into the sessions, I did become quite emotional at lots of different points. But, that was good thing. Letting the emotions come over me really made me realise just how stressed and lost I had become within my own life.
I have learnt to be much less harsh on myself. I think talking to someone outside my close family circle has given me a new perspective. That has allowed me to step back and realise that I have been doing a good job when I only ever thought I was failing. And that people do appreciate me when I only ever thought I wasn’t good enough.
In practical terms the coaching has filled me with confidence to go to apply for jobs and to go to interviews that I might not normally have chosen to go to. In the end it has led me to my first new job in 15 years and I am loving it. It is ticking all the work-life balance boxes that I needed to tick right now and I couldn’t be happier.
I would recommend this coaching to any woman who is fed up with the job they are in, are feeling overwhelmed with trying to achieve the work-life balance, or who simply want to increase their confidence to get themselves out of the work rut that they are in. This coaching is for anyone who needs to gain clarity, confidence and courage in their life.”
Nowadays everyone can call themselves ‘coach’. Coach is not a protected profession. If you go to the doctor, you know what you can expect in terms of quality. Unfortunately, this is not the case with coaches.
How do you know that you make a good choice? In addition to a good rapport, you can pay attention to the education someone has followed and the quality labels you see on a website.
Unfortunately, nowadays there is a proliferation of quality labels and that is why I wanted to follow a course that is internationally high regarded and guarantees quality within the professional coaching world.
I joined the Co-Active Training Institute and got certified as a Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC). I’m also a licensed Firework Career Coach.
Excuse me for the following boring piece of text, but I would like to share it with you.
Co-Active Coaching is the largest personal (so not online) coaching training programme in the world. It is considered to be the most rigorous program available for professional coaching development, given the many training and practice hours.
Both the Co-Active Coach training and the Firework Career Coach program are accredited by the International Coaching Federation. This international organization focuses on promoting the quality of the coaching profession by setting high standards, offering independent certification and building a worldwide network of trained coaching professionals.
The offer from She does it
Every woman is unique and that is why my coaching is personal and customized. I do not follow a rigid roadmap.
Of course, the coaching process consists of a number of fixed components:
- Free coaching session of 1 hour, after which you could immediately take a step in your work-life balance.
Of course, this session would be both confidential and entirely free of obligation. Based on this you can decide if we could build a good rapport or you prefer to work with another coach.
- 2-hours discovery session.
- Coaching sessions of 1 hour.
These take place every two weeks, but can also take place weekly if desired. For example if you want to make an important decision at short-term.
- On average, a coaching program takes 3 to 6 months.
- Unlimited free support via email and app.
Curious what coaching can bring you?
Just make an appointment for a free coaching session, after which you could immediately take a step in your work-life balance.
Of course, this session would be both confidential and entirely free of obligation.